How Can You Actually Heal Your Trauma to Be a Better Partner?

I saw a quote recently that said, “What you haven’t healed in yourself will be revealed in your relationships.” This quote hit me pretty hard because I know I’ve brought past trauma into present relationships and then inflicted that trauma on my partner. No partner deserves to suffer for trauma they had no part in. Consider the importance of healing your trauma so it doesn’t bleed all over your future relationships.

Unhealed trauma often leads to:

• Having the same, broken and unhappy relationships over and over.
• Having the need to control others in order for you to be happy.
• Failing to have healthy boundaries with others.
• Failing to give yourself time and permission to grieve and heal from other traumas.
• Remaining the same, unhappy person, no matter what else is happening in your life.

Healing trauma takes time, focus, and a desire to be healed, so please do not think this is an easy process or one you can necessarily do on your own. My own trauma required some time with a therapist and a lot of time before healing set in. Yours will likely need the same.

In the moment of suffering a loss or new trauma, you have the most power to feel, transform and release your…